i’m not moving… ON!

Ilang beses mo ng sinasabing mag-MOMOVE ON ka na. Teka, nagawa mo na nga ba?

Ilang beses ko ng narinig mula sa bibig mo, “Last na to, hindi ko na hahayaang gawin pa niya ito sa akin… hindi na ako magpapakaTANGA!”

Pero, isang text lang, kinamusta ka lang, o di kaya nag-HI lang sa’yo… pinansin mo na ulit. Lalo pa’t nagsorry siya sayo at pagkatapos ay nilambing ka ng husto.

Teka nga ulit,

Ilang beses na ba siyang nag-sorry sa’yo? Bilang mo pa ba? Tsk. Tsk. Tsk. Ang malala pa diyan, may pinagbago ba siya?

Sabagay, sa dinami dami ng ginawa niya para saktan ka.. hawakan ka lang sa kamay, tinitigan ka lang, nakaramdam ka lang ng kuryente, napawi na lahat ng sakit.

So, paano ka makaka-MOVE ON?

Ah.. oo nga pala, sabi mo, ang mabuting gawin ay ang lumayo, wag magparamdam. “Hindi ko na siya itetext, buburahin ko na siya sa phonebook ko, iiwasan ko na siya at hindi na magpapakita.”

Aba napabilib mo ako, dumaan ang araw at nagawa mong lahat ng pinangako mo.. Ngunit, bago pa man matapos ang araw.. Nagtext ang GAGO.

Matagal mong tinitigan ang text niya. Kahit burado pa siya sa phonebook mo, kabisado mo kung paano siya magtext, at higit sa lahat kabisado mo pa din ang cellphone number nya. 

Binasa mo paulit ulit ang text niya, “Musta…?”. Sinusubukan mong alamin ang dahilan ng pagtetext niya sa pamamagitan ng isang salitang tinext niya. Naglalaro sa isip mo, “Shyet, hindi niya ako matiis, namiss nya ako, kinakamusta ako… mahal pa din niya ako.” 

Nakakatawa ka. “Musta…?” lang sinabi niya, ikaw naman ang dami mo ng inisip.

Isang oras ang lumipas, nakatitig ka pa rin sa cellphone mo. 

Ilang minuto pa… message sent. Ayun, nagreply ka din.

Hanggang sa nakita mo ang sarili mo na gumagawa na naman ng mga bagay para sa kanya ng walang kapalit… kahit walang kapalit na pagmamahal.

Masaktan ka man.. masaya ka pa din.

Ewan ko ba sa’yo.. mas masaya ka pa yata na nasasaktan. Kahit meron namang ibang tao dyan na hindi ka kayang saktan kailanman. Kahit mayroong taong handang suklian ang pagmamahal na ibibigay mo.

Hinding-hindi ka na yata mag-momove on. 

Hindi na rin ako aasa… 

Hindi na rin ako aasa na makakapag-ON ako sa’yo.

love potion

yey! here it goes my girl friends: the things you can do to make your guy fall deeply into you. this may not work for everybody, but as far as i have observed, these things can melt a guy’s heart. the following “tips”, as i may say, seems subtle and most of the time, we neglect to do these things ’cause we think it won’t work… but mind you.. these little things, mean a lot to guys.

*wink* *wink*

 Nakasalubong ni girl si guy sa hallway

This is your chance to leave an impression to a guy, even for a split second. Regardless if you know the guy or not, you shouldn’t miss this opportunity. Stand and walk straight ahead. Never ever look down. Be confident. Try to look into his eyes. This way he will know that someone is looking at him, and if he did look at you, give him a nice simple smile. This is just a courteous way to greet people. Guys don’t make a great deal out of it, so you dont have to worry that they are already thinking that you like them. This just goes to show to you are friendly and accomodating. You don’t have to say HI, just smile everytime you bump into him. He will surely remember you and he’ll make the move to know your name next time he sees you. Or he would probably ask around for your name. 

Kausap ni girl c guy

So you already know each other’s name and finally had the chance to talk (e.g. you’re sitting right next to him while waiting in line, you’re both in a very long boring meeting, or riding the same public vehicle on your way home/office. So always start off by smiling, give him a hint that you know him. Wait for a response, verbally or non-verbally. If in case he just nodded or smiled back at you, you can start off a casual conversation something like, “you’re chris, right?” or “where are you heading?”. If he continues with the conversation, you’re on the right track. If he asks something, answer him directly. Let him know that you’re interested as well, ask questions too. Its a lame conversation if it’s only about you. This is your chance to get to know him, and put your best foot forward. 

Most importantly, listen. Every guy needs someone who listens more. They hate girlswho rant all the time. When they talk serious, they need serious response. When they joke around, they need someone who can go along with their jokes. Act accordingly.

Habang kausap ni girl c guy

Make a good connection. Look at his eyes while talking to him. Know a lot of things about him. What does he enjoy doing, find something in common that you can share with or talk about next time (e.g. good movies to watch, fave food or drink, t.v. or radio shows you both enjoy watching or listening to, etc.) 

Also, dont forget to tap him while talking or laughing with him. They liked it when girls touch them, even if its a soft punch. ;’)

Habang kasabay kumain ni girl si guy

For example you had the chance to eat with him during lunch at the cafeteria or any fastfood restaurant, of course would fall in line to make the order and bring in your tray. What girls can do is to get him them best utensils, hand him a straw or table napkin. Guys do forget to do this when ordering and by doing this for them makes them feel that they are pampered. You can wipe the utensils for him while he’s putting down the food on the table, as if you’re just helping out. Do it like it comes out of you naturally. 

Kapag close friend na ni girl c guy

Remember special events in his life. Greet him on his birthday, if you can greet him at exactly 12MN, do so. It makes him feel special. And do ask him favors. Guys want to be the girl’s knight in shining armour. When youre riding a cab and its late, text him the cab’s plate number. Let him know as well when you’re home safely. CAll him when you’re sick or you’re really bored. Ask if he can pick you up at work or go with you to do an errand. Ask him to walk you home or call him when you’re really sad and upset. Let him feel that you’re happy when he’s there. Once a guy did a girl a favor, he can never ever resist her again…

I hope this helps. If you have questions, feel free to ask. I really wasnt able to say everything i need to say.. but it’s already 1am and i still have work tom.. i’ll maybe discuss this again on this blog… :’) nyt!

Was I Loved? Or Was I Taken for Granted?

 I felt I was loved when:

..even after a very long tiring day, you would still call and talk to me until you fall asleep.

..i check my phone and your name appears in the list of unread messages or missed calls

..you get so worried when I take a cab, when I skip my meals or did not eat on time, or when I get sick.

..you remember the last time we saw each other and every detail of it (i.e. clothes/perfiume I wore, the places we went to, food we ate, last movie we saw together, etc.)

..you’ll drop me an e-mail, just to say you miss me..

..even if its out of your way, you’ll pick me up just to see me

..every minute with me matters to you

..even how hard you try not to see or talk to me, you just cant resist it

..i see your proud face while introducing me to your family and relatives

..your prepaid load get used up, but still you go out of your way in the middle of the night just to be able to respond.

..consult me with every major decision you make

..trust me

..you help without any hesitation

..you call me not only when you’re sad, but also to share  your happiness with me.

..you get really jealous

..all you wished for is for me to get only what I deserve

I felt I was taken for granted when:

..even after several text messages, I get no response

..you lied to me

..you hid the truth to me

..you were not able to stand up for what you truly feel

..you doubted how I truly feel

..refuse to face difficult circumstances

..you were afraid to take the risk

..you broke your promises

..you never gave me an assurance

.. you let me keep waiting for nothing

..you left me all alone in my sadness.

Yes, I felt both. At that time I was really in excruciating pain. I was loved yet I was taken for granted. How confusing can it be? 

But then again, I realized that all of us are capable of doing this to other people and like those who took us for granted, we are not aware when doing it. We don’t intend to hurt other people but in one way or another, we do.

In some point in time I have took someone for granted as well. So who am I to persecute them? I am just like them. That’s the reason why I still do good things for those who did me wrong. That’s the reason why I forgive them. And trust me it feels a lot better to just accept everything: learn to forgive and love again.  

things boy friends shouldn’t do to their girl friends

please do mind the spaces in between “boy friends” and “girl friends”. i want this to be clear: these are the things boys shouldn’t do to girls whom they only consider as a friend but never more than that. 

we always do hear stories of girls falling in love with their close guy friends. and guys on the other hand, clean their hands off by saying: “i didnt intend to make her fall.. i was just being nice.”

so to prevent these things to happen, i’m making a list for girls to be aware of and for guys to just stop being flirts and be aware of their gestures that make girls fall head over heels. (do i sound really affected? i hope not.. –HAHA!)

don’t call us in the middle of the night. i know you guys stay up very late, but you can do a lot of things to get you to sleep. Watch good movies, make yourself sober until your eyelids drop, but never ever call us in the middle of the night. You can do it anytime of the day. And don’t make it longer than 3 mins for god’ sake. And dont ever make it a habit that later on you just want to break. Girls really do feel their special when you call them just to say goodnight or that she’s the only person whom can lift you up when you just had a bad day at work or help you make a good decision. this will make girls feel that they are already part of your life. Calling her every night makes her wanna pull the sun down faster so that she’ll hear voice again.

 don’t ever sing us a song. “you are the apple of my eye..”, “Lalalala… means iloveyou..” You know what? no matter how bad you sing, no matter what song you sing… for girls, it’s music to our ears. So never make a tune, never send us lyrics, never sing, and please… never let us hear you play guitar. No matter what it is, we will always remember and we will always put some meaning to its lyrics. Whatever song that is, it will be very special for us and everytime we hear it, we will remember you. So if you don’t want us to do that.. don’t sing at all.

don’t ask too much. Stop acting as if you really want to get to know us deeper. Stop being too personal. Don’t ask about our ex, about our family, school or work… most especially about what we like. Asking us questions make us feel that you are interested. Otherwise, spare us from your inquisitions. 

don’t be funny or mysterious. Stop playing mystery or kiddy games with us. We fall fastly for humor and we easily get intrigued by being inexplicable. Just be DULL. That’s it!

thou shall not touch. Don’t you ever dare to touch even the tip of our fingers, or even try to guide us while crossing the streets. We are big enough to do that on our own. Fyi, our skin is very sensitive that by just touching our elbows, we get electrocuted. 

So there you have it for now.  I can name more… but im too sleepy right now. All i can say is that beware of your actions guys; and girls, don’t assume too much!

Btw, after this I’m thinking of writing a post on how girls can make guys fall in love. Hmmm…

regret vs. regret not

All this time, i have this conscious effort to regret not. i am one of those people who believes that everything happens for a reason. life is indeed a process that we must all go through. there will be good times as there will be topsy-turvy situations . there will be good choices as there will be bad ones. we are capable of making the best decision as we are also capable of making the poorest judgement. and nobody is an exception. in that whole process.. we learn. and that’s something we shouldn’t regret. 

and so may i ask, why do i still have sleepless nights? why do i caught myself staring blankly at the wall? why am i still waiting for something? why am i stranded to some desert place i never wanted to be in? why are these questions still popping into my head when supposedly i am already convinced that i shouldn’t regret after all?

i guess.. even if we try our very best not to regret anything, we will never succeed because likewise it’s part of a process we just have to go through. Regretting i guess is actually admitting to ourselves that something did go wrong and in that manner we will be able to prevent making the same mistake again. yes, we will not be able to turn back times but we are masters of our fate. We are capable of changing it.

so yes, i do regret and i do regret a lot of things and now i am trying to change my fate and i promise myself that i will never go through the same sh*t again… ever. 

i.am

i am no writer. i don’t express myself very well. i am often misunderstood. i was  told i was complicated, not once but several times by different people. 

i don’t disclose myself to anyone for i know no one will ever even get close to understanding on how i truly feel.  i don’t trust easily… well at least not anymore.

you can’t blame me as i don’t blame others on how they perceive me. i am not who they think i am.

i am not who i am or who i want myself to be.

i am stranger to myself.

i am hoping that through this avenue i will be able to let express all my thoughts and feelings.. without hesitations.. without being judged.